Playing The
Catch Me Game - How To Make The Chase Thrilling For Him or Her
Most of us
have lost touch with what it means to play-hard-to-get and
the art of letting ourselves be caught. We’ve literally
taken the “catch me" game to mean predator chases down prey
and destroys it. We’ve somehow made it in such away that
there must be great suffering and even blood lost (broken
hearts) for anything meaningful to happen.
However, when you watch the courtship behaviour of wild
animals in their natural habitats -- which is where our
ancestors discovered this courtship ritual and fine tuned it
for their own use -- the dance of the hunter and hunted is a
sophisticated and genuinely delightful game with lots of
good fun. It’s exciting, stimulating, arousing and
breathtaking in every sense of the word.
Unfortunately for us, somewhere along the line “chasing" --
a growing trend for staying “cool" in the dating ritual --
became playing hide and seek with someone who doesn’t want
to be caught, tricking the person to take pure baloney for
reality, or playing with people’s emotions because it makes
the person doing it feel wanted.
My understanding of the “thrill of the chase" which builds
up to the “art of “arranging to be caught" is simply a
modern version of the art of “wooing". Where the art of
“wooing" is still alive and kicking, it’s considered to be
one step above the art of seducing in the delicate dance of
courtship. The reality though is that, quite often seducing
and wooing happen simultaneously.
This is when two people are trying to get a better feel for
each other. Both have already established that there is some
degree of attraction/chemistry and an interest in exploring
things further. Both the man and woman are aware that the
other has other women or other men to choose from and each
tries to win the affection of the other. It is similar to
the courtship behaviour in the wild where the male and
female show off their best moves to get their potential
sexual partner to mate with them. Both parties contribute an
equal amount of interest and effort -- no one expects it to
last forever and no one feels tricked or used.
Both individuals also take great pleasure in keeping the
adrenaline flowing and things more fun and interesting. This
is where the “thrill of the chase" comes in.
The person doing the chasing sets out to and makes the
person being chased feel affection and desire. He or she
creates incidents, events and experiences that make the
person he or she is chasing dream about, miss and long for
him or her when he or she is not around. His or her goal is
to make the person being chased feel that something
important is happening and he or she (the chaser) is the
reason.
The person being chased after, on the other hand, maintains
a certain degree of mystery, unfamiliarity and “out of
reach". He or she creates incidents, events and experiences
(smile in his/her voice when the chaser calls, smile in
his/her eyes when together, genuine interest in his/her life
etc) that clearly suggest to the person doing the chasing
that success is possible, but some effort must be expended
to achieve that success. The chaser's efforts are rewarded
by more positive signals and more challenge for him or her
to step up and become more of himself or herself and do more
than he or she’d dared to do before.
The “chase" inspires both parties not to become complacent
or take the other for granted. The “chase" also gives both
parties the opportunity to find out what really makes the
other tick and what he or she is capable of as a potential
long-term partner. As two people get more focused on each,
the attraction intensifies and interest in other men and
women gradually disappears -- for different reasons.
The mistake many men and women make when they are chasing
the opposite sex is waste so much time trying to turn the
other person’s no’s into yes by saying this and lying about
that, doing this and forcing that to happen. They
erroneously think that with the right amount of hard work
and persistence they can get the other person to change his
or her mind. They are so focused on breaking down resistance
that they fail to build bridges of genuine affection, desire
and longing. Very often they find themselves chasing someone
who has long lost interest in the chase. All they have left
is persistence which sometimes degenerates into manipulation
or begging - or both!.
The men and women being chased after on the other hand make
the mistake of confusing mystery with vagueness (hiding
their true feelings), unfamiliarity with uncertainty (giving
mixed signals) and “out of reach" with inaccessible (making
themselves unavailable or running too far ahead). This
hiding of feelings, sending mixed messages and making
oneself unavailable only serves to confuse and frustrate the
chaser. Most people who do this turn round to find
that the only thing chasing them is their own shadows.
A man or woman who is not afraid to play the "Catch me" game
and knows how to let him or herself be caught is a rare
breed in this day and time. Learning this fine art will
definitely give you an edge that puts you ahead of the pack
making you a more attractive chase. It's actually easier
than you think!
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