Off late, I have been greatly
criticized because of the way I define sexual confidence
and views on sexual desire which are on
most part very counter-cultural in the West where sexuality is still
very much a "lower" or “primitive" state, and a dangerous and
potentially destructive “drive" that drags down men and women to act,
often against their better judgement, and which could be redeemed by
intellectual rationality.
Many still keep their sexual desires
under the lock and key and subject their
expression to an inflexible
rule-like framework leaving no room for
uniqueness and creativity.
I have no issues with it, we live in an age where each individual is
free to choose.
I keep writing about this parochial way of sexual confidence because I
meet men and women across all the strata of society and each of them is
grappling with the problem of expressing their sexual desire which is in
absolute contradiction to the norms that the society expects all of us
to adhere to. So the result is that none of the people are able to
express their sexual existence in a healthy and productive manner –
which it was truly meant to be.
All of us, men as well as women think of act when we hear the word
“sexual”. We have all been conditioned to think like that. All we feel,
when we hear anything sexual is that if we let ourselves enjoy what we
feel we will be committing the greatest sin for which we will be
punished in the most brutal and horrid way.
Another supposedly liberal version of being sexual is all let loose
show. You allow yourself to freely express yourself, nothing limits you
and you can do anything since you think it is supposed to be like that!
This too is a childish way to express sexuality.
I reiterate what I said earlier, every individual in this world has
his/her freedom of choice.
I will tell you what the fact is. There have been many books written on
sexual confidence and lot of programs have been run to give you
technicalities about sex. These are effective but in a very limited
manner. They are fruitful for those who think that sexual power and
realization of what you truly are not at all linked. For those who just
want to calm those jumping hormones these books are fine, but for those
who seek much more such books and programs can throw a spanner into
their life.
Cultivating and sustaining sexual confidence is not at all complex. It
has just been made complex by the world over a period of time.
Sexual confidence has nothing to do with how big an organ you have or
how well you are at belly dancing or how much your skin you show.
Sexual confidence is above all these physical aspects. Sexual confidence
is knowing what you truly are and expressing your sexuality in your own
unique style. Human sexuality is composed of a lot many factors like
personal values, experiences, sensations, thoughts, emotions, what
attracts you and how you desire to express yourself and how you view
yourself to be. Sexual confidence is understand each of these factors
and their relationship and express them in a way that makes you feel
more fulfilled and bring peace and joy to you.
You may be smart and good at striking conversations, but if you want to
focus your sexual desire in to your groin area it is not worth hit.
Worse, having this kind of attitude is detrimental and it is the worst
thing that you could do to you physical, emotional and mental well
being.
And for god’s sake don’t tell me the moves – caress the ear, kiss the
neck for 2 minutes, next run fingers on the back, move over to the
thighs and then turn her on the back and get it done with. This kind of
a mechanical and dry run makes me feel that sex is a math puzzle which
we all humans are trying with the help of various permutations and
combinations.
Sexual desire is perfectly normal. It is not a sin to have sexual
desires. We have been created like this. Accept these facts. Every
living being on this earth has sexual capabilities. It is nothing
unnatural emotion that we are harboring. It is how our whole human kind
has cultured into communities and societies. It is just as natural a
process as eating, walking, talking etc. The sexual emotions and desires
that you feel are an integral part of human existence. It is nothing but
love trying to happen. To express such desire is the ultimate bliss, one
that vanquishes all fear – the love of how we are linked to the nature.
The issue here is our fear. We fear that we will get transformed into
someone we have not yet known. Being powerless is not what we are afraid
of. On the contrary, it is the power that we are endowed with which
pulls us back.
Just give a thought to what your life would transform to if you come to
about how fulfilling and satisfying life is when you live in harmony
with your sexual desires. What would the whole experience of living in
harmony with your sexual power, wisdom and consciousness be? What would
it be when you get all the focus you need without toiling for it? Do not
manipulate your emotions and instead just let them flow in their natural
form. Just imagine if you get the gift of telling who is attracted
towards you. How would it feel to view yourself in a different light
when you are attracted to someone, just because there is a very great
part of yours which you can dedicate to that person? Wouldn’t it be
great if you master all the techniques inside and outside the bedroom?
You will definitely lead a lot better life if you are able to express
and share you sexual personality and are always filled with passion and
vitality.
But just imagining it won’t help you. Act now to realize it. Shun all
the inhibitions you have had. You will soon start to realize life both
in and out of your sexual desires.
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