Using Words To Seduce Men To Do
What You Want
The mere mention of the word “seduction” creates a lot of anxiety for
many men and women. Even experienced daters agree that the pressure to
cause a particular effect on a potential partner can sometimes be too
much, especially in today’s increasingly cross-gender hostile
environment.
But seduction doesn’t have to be one sided and the responsibility of
obtaining “results” doesn’t have to be solely on the seducer. This is
one of the GREAT secrets of men and women who are naturals at seduction.
They know that for seduction to be truly pleasurable to the point that
it leads to something more, you have to draw in the person you are
seducing into co-creating the experience. This way you don’t feel like
it’s all up to impress or manipulate a passive participant.
One example of such seduction is in the use of words. Words are very
powerful when it comes to seduction, but it’s not the words that are
powerful, it’s the way you use words that can take seduction to a whole
new level -- and to the direction you want it to go.
For example if you want to tell a guy how you want to be loved, cared
for, treated or whatever, and you know guys being guys don't want being
told "what to do" and especially how they should love you or treat you,
deliberately impregnate his mind with words that can be filled in a
number of ways, and that invite and encourage participation without
dictating it.
In my dating days, one of my favourite
phrases was, “Life is fragile, handle me with care.” We’d be deeply
engrossed in conversation about some hardships in our lives or something
equally absorbing and to break the mood, I’d simply say, “Life is
fragile, handle me with care.” After three or four times, all I would
have to say is “Life is fragile…” and the guys would join in with
“handle me with care.” From the very first date, men remembered these words and every single one of them “handled me with care.” It became like my “brand” the
same way Paris Hilton has her “That’s hot!”.
If they started to “forget” and start taking things for granted, all I
would say is, ““Life is fragile…” and they’d come back with “I know… I
have to handle it with care” or “This woman needs to be handled with
care” or “Oh-oh! This means I am not handling it with care”.
This is an interesting way of provoking thought and moving hearts.
Unlike the other ways of “asking” that strike a devastating
disconnection and sometimes create stress, this way liberates him once he realizes that there is no pressure and no need to
become suspicious, distrustful, or antagonistic. His decision to
participate is based on choice and will, not on manipulation and
control. This is seduction in its purest form!
The best “catchy phrases” are simple and do not require a lot of
thinking and planning. It can be anything as simple as a trivia
question, or tongue-in-cheek witticism, something unique, something that
he will hear and think, “This is a fresh viewpoint,” or “This is an
extraordinary way to look at the world,” or “This is different!”
My e-Book is filled with more examples of
this way of using words and other ways of seducing without it looking
like you are even trying. You will be surprised how easy it is to get
what you want -- EVERY SINGLE TIME -- with so very little effort!
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