Do you think all men are inherently
stupid and immature, or resistant to change and sexually lazy, and the
only thing that keeps them in place is nagging, tricks, manipulation and
rewarding and punishing them with giving and withdrawing sex? If you
answered yes to ANY one of these descriptions, then please pass go. Do
not even bother to read this article. It will make no sense to you.
If on the other hand, you have a good relationship and a good man, and
you think your boring man has “potential” and just needs a little bit of
“support’ stepping up and becoming the fun, interesting, exciting and
sexually intense man you want him to be, then we have something in
common -- woman to woman.
Traditionally there are two ways to get a man to do something: one way
is telling him what you want in clear logical terms and politely asking
for his participation. The other way is creating a particular feeling in
him that stimulates him into action. You can choose to use either one
way -- or both -- but you must know how to do it really well.
In this article, I will focus on the one way that I use with incredible
results, every single time.
They say men are logical and analytical in their thinking, they make
decisions typically based on careful analysis and all that stuff. And it
is really, really great that they are that way -- but only if they are
doing a task that requires those skills. The problem is that most men
are logical and analytical PERIOD. There is nothing more to them. That
is why most of them are boring to women.
But this is also where most women fail themselves, especially if they’ve
already “caught” the man. They think he’s now my boyfriend or husband
the rest will take care of itself and will live happily eve after.
Mistake!
The reason your man was fun, interesting, exciting and sexually intense
when you were dating and courting each other is because you were
flirting and seducing him and in the process creating particular
feelings in him that stimulated him into action. When you stopped, he
stopped feeling those feelings. He lost the inspiration. Did I mention
that most men are logical and analytical PERIOD?
A relationship that has ongoing fire and passion in it needs
inspiration. It’s an endless seduction. Your man is constantly being
seduced and courted by many other things in his environment including
work pressure and the pressure to succeed on one end, and porn and
advertisement of naked women with perfect bodies on the other end. Your
job is to flirt, to woo and to seduce him again and again. Just watch
the movie 50 First Dates and see Adam Sandler seduce Drew Barrymore
again, and again, and again.
If dating and courting is an invitation to a purchase, the way you
seduce your man is your brand. By constantly evoking the emotional
essence that fits with his aspirations, fulfills his emotional needs,
and sparks his fantasies you’re demonstrating to him why he loves you
and needs more of you around him.
Studies have shown men who enjoy the company of their women are more
loyal, committed and creative, in addition to experiencing satisfaction
in the relationship. So fill him with feelings of confidence,
encouragement, fun, excitement, arousal and sense of personal growth.
Create experiences that inspire him to try something he didn’t think he
could do before.
Problem is, you can’t do this if you’re not confident, fun, exciting,
genuinely sexy and empowered yourself -- your efforts will just be one
more thing to turn him off. If you're using some "technique' you pulled
off an internet article or book on seduction and trying to look like or
act like you are confident, fun, exciting and "sexy", your efforts leave
a bad feeling (suspicion) instead of inspiration.
To be seductive from your very core is first and foremost to seduce
yourself. Your seduction style -- one that is casually and naturally you
and comes from within you and is effortlessly and abundantly there and
stays with you day and night, whether you’re with people and or alone --
is the magnetism, your attraction factor and is most magnetic when
expressed as authentic love.
Seducing your man by inspiration has a high redeeming value and has a
myriad of advantages. And when you contemplate those advantages, you’ll
wonder why anyone would choose nagging, tricks, manipulation and sex
rewards and punishments, when creating particular feelings in him that
motivate him to develop his own internally generated and
situation-driven behaviour consistent with his own values and felt wants
and desires is so much, well, fun!
In fact, the less time and energy you spend on manipulation and
deception or on complaining about how boring your man is, the more energy and
time you have for coming up with creative ways to inspire him to action
-- and the more passionate and magical your relationship will be.
Go on inspire your man!
PS: If you think all men are inherently stupid and immature, or
resistant to change and sexually lazy, and the only thing that keeps
them in place is nagging, tricks, manipulation and rewarding and
punishing them with giving and withdrawing sex, and you still managed to
read this article to the end, I have words of wisdom for you too. You
can get work from the beast if you beat it; what you’ll never get is
loyalty. Pushed too far, the beast breaks and runs or breaks and bites
back. That’s just the way it is.
If you'd like to develop your own
seduction brand and learn how to seduce by inspiration,
my e-Book
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