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The most frequently asked question
about the art of seduction is why it works for some people and not
others. But before I can answer that question, I want to point out that
there are two kinds of seduction. The one in which the art of seduction
connotes sex appeal or sexual enticement using a specific series of
smooth fast talking routines or techniques to entice “a target” into
doing what he or she would normally not want to do or want to give up.
The other is seduction that is all part of everyday life and a medium of
every day communication that when absent in human interaction, the
interaction lacks a sense of fun and excitement, meaning and pleasure.
This type of seduction goes beyond efficiency and performance to
creating an exclusive shared bond. This is the type of seduction this
e-Book is about because this is the type of seduction I am more
competent to talk about.
The art of seduction is a ritual with beginning (seduction), middle
(attraction), and an end (a relationship).
The beginning - stimulate the imagination
Stimulate the imagination by creating an emotional picture that allows
the person to see him or herself in the centre of the experience (how he
or she will feel). One way to do this is by not only being original but
going beyond the obvious. The idea is to create an emotional promise
that the person can experience in real time (right-here-right-now). The
emotional picture has to promise some kind of emotional transformation
(interest, excitement, arousal or something related to personal
development). The emotional picture you create must closely connect with
the persons emotional aspirations for it to seduce.
The middle - Make progress with small fulfillments
While the beginning and the end are all important, it is the middle
where the attraction really happen. Create attraction by rewarding the person for the attention given and create reason for him or
her to invest more emotion into the experience. Every time you fulfill
his or her emotional aspiration, it validates the emotional picture
originally created in his/her imagination.
A person exceptionally good at this art knows how to draw out the middle
(this often includes the use of mystery, suspense, subtle
suggestion and multi-sensory stimulation) almost indefinitely. The whole
intention is to create positive feelings about the future. The longer you can draw the experience
(excitement, arousal, personal growth, pleasure etc) the more lasting
the attraction and emotional bond you’ll create.
The End - Deliver in a memorable way
For the attraction to survive and progress into a relationship you must
continue the emotional engagement (making good on past promises, making
new ones for the future and delivering surprises with something more
than expected). As long as the other person feels that he or she is
growing emotionally or intellectually in some way due to your presence
in his/her life, you will be viewed as valuable and good for keeps.
Unfortunately, this approach to seduction is rare. Most so called master
seducers are more concerned with technique and “fast” seduction than
with creating attraction, let alone a real lasting relationship. When
the emotional experience is not explored and experienced by the other
person it is very difficult to creating a seductive experience that can
survive beyond initial contact.
If you are interested in learning how to use this powerful medium of
communication to create bonds that are personal, intimate, and emotional
and lasting, then I recommend that you begin rigorous development of a
deeper understanding of the phenomenon of seduction. Immerse yourself in
learning how to build meaningful, pleasurable and fulfilling emotional
experiences and connections.
While seemingly elusive, the art of seduction is very powerful - when
done well. Only
a person who expects more can actually create more and have more.
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